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posted ago by PurplePunch36

I know a lot of people have been better about what’s been going on with the quarantine but I’ve been depressed af and it sucks. I’ve been really feeling down on myself, a lot of uncertainties in my personal and professional life and I don’t have a lot going for me. I feel like I don’t have many outlets to address my personal concerns but I’m glad I have somewhere to go (here). To be honest I think I need to stop drinking but with all the bs that has been going on I can’t help myself. When everything started to go south on Reddit with T_D I took it to heart because it was one place I knew I could rely on people that would have my back. Just glad i have you all here. Who ever read this, thank you for at least getting this far.

I know a lot of people have been better about what’s been going on with the quarantine but I’ve been depressed af and it sucks. I’ve been really feeling down on myself, a lot of uncertainties in my personal and professional life and I don’t have a lot going for me. I feel like I don’t have many outlets to address my personal concerns but I’m glad I have somewhere to go (here). To be honest I think I need to stop drinking but with all the bs that has been going on I can’t help myself. When everything started to go south on Reddit with T_D I took it to heart because it was one place I knew I could rely on people that would have my back. Just glad i have you all here. Who ever read this, thank you for at least getting this far.
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thingaboutarsenal 69 points ago

Alcohol is a depressant. You're feeling down a lot because you're frequently depressing your nervous system. Stop drinking, start working out, eat better, you'll get there. HMU if you need to talk. I've been where you are right now.

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Lady_Stallion 9 points ago

Life fucking sucks right now for a lot of people and it takes what it takes to deal. Working out won't make my 17k mortgage I need this month without being open to sell cars.

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PresidentDonaldTrump 22 points ago

No evictions or foreclosures possible during this time of emergency... relax, you will be fine.

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Ithrowawaay 18 points ago (edited)

Your mortgage payment isn't 17k. Principal plus interest, sure.

But let’s be practical.

Spez: I wish I had only 17k left on my house. Keep it in perspective.

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DCdeplorable 12 points ago

I hope youre able to figure that out. Call the lender explain that you're more than willing to pay your debts, but the whole world is on hold right now. Hopefully they understand. Wishing you the best.

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Howz3r420 6 points ago

From his text it looks like thats the mortgage on his caf dealership lot.

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thingaboutarsenal 5 points ago

I have to disagree. Sure it's dark, but drinking won't help but momentarily then you'll be more depressed the next day. Working out will have a physiological impact that is positive. Obviously it won't fix any economic problems, but to say it won't help is false.

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knowIdotruth 1 point ago

Resiliency my friend.

Dont focus on what you can't do. Focus on what you can do to mitigate what you cant.

You have time now to prioritize planning on how to climb out of the whole. Alot of time to develop a plan of action that might help overcome.

Might be a good time to brush up on those sales skills, too. Books and videos. Master the trade more than you have already.

If a boom is coming, people are gonna wAnna be back to life as normal and may desire to change their lives and make purchases. You might have a bright road ahead. But mitigate, mitigate, mitigate.

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Poonjazzler1 1 point ago

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Oil-trader 31 points ago

Hey man we’re here for you! I’ve been down a lot on my life and somehow keep getting up and back on top. I’m quite depressed these days too, this virus thing is annoying as fuck. Everyone wants things back to normal that’s for sure.

Hang in there, it’ll get better! The key is stay positive. The power of positive thinking is all it takes in life to change everything.

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PurplePunch36 [S] 23 points ago

Thank you. I appreciate that. It’s just a hard time for all and I never feel like this but things have just been shitty lately. I know a lot more people are worse off than myself and that makes it even worse. I shouldn’t feel like this but sometimes you can’t help but break down over stresses.

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LugNuts 23 points ago

This will sound corny, but get exercise. A decent bike ride, jumping jacks until sweaty, lift weights, a long walk. It can really help, your physiology changes.

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psybrnaut 17 points ago

For real the gym being closed has had me down in the dumps. Finally made myself hang the heavy bag in the garage and burn some energy today. Feel 10x better

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Trumper007 13 points ago

Harness this. Digest this. Use this. Defeat dems!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Love you Pede.

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Kolob 7 points ago

Someone is always worse off and someone is always better off. The reality is this is a crazy hard time for you and feeling depressed is normal. Hard times are just plain hard, but you are stronger than you think. Call your lender and they should make something work

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proDeoEtPatria 3 points ago

I feel you man, we’re all in this together. You’ll feel immediately better and more energized if you don’t watch the lyin mainstream news. CNN and MSNBC’s hate for our country and hate for Trump would put anyone in the dumps.

Keep your energy HIGH, have faith, stay positive, and vote in Nov.

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Jenny 1 point ago

Matthew chapter 6. Always helps me refocus and shake off those feelings. Sometimes you have to actively remind yourself of these things daily. Also, working out is a good idea. Anythings a good idea to keep busy. Read cook workout clean garden learn something new. Theres so many things to stay busy and help ward off being down. Sometimes u may have to peel yourself up outta bed to do things but get to peeling! Its a beautiful day. Open the blinds and windows. Blast some music. Take a hot shower with ur fave body wash n shampoo. Then cook a nutritious meal. And breathe. Being down fixes nothing. You got this!!!!!

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BenFranklin1776 30 points ago

There are some things to be grateful for :

  1. Hillary is not your president
  2. If you are at the bottom you can only go up
  3. You are living history Lastly find something you like and get really good at it maybe make a living at it.
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sarcen1776 27 points ago

Chin up, sunlight, stay busy. Make a list of things you wish were done, small things that are realistic. Like, clean room, wash car. rearrange furniture, clean fridge.

Then pick one and do it. Goal, then action, then you'll have acheivement. Repeat, and resprinkle leisure activities inside the spaces.

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PurplePunch36 [S] 23 points ago

I’m going to try that tomorrow. I have things I want to do and get accomplish and I think I’m going to set realistic goals for tomorrow to get everything in line.

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NvCrone 15 points ago

Put two screwdrivers in your pocket, flat and phillips, and walk around the house tightening all the loose screws. No, really, it's on my list.

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secretbern 12 points ago

If you get stuck, take each thing on the list and break it into three smaller steps.

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AutumnCrystal7777777 9 points ago

Make it a soft one, something that will darn well get done, do it, get that little dopamine rush accomplishment gives you, set the bar a little higher for the next day, and so on.

Don't beat yourself up for uncapping a few.

This place is an oasis for the restless mind, yes. It's been good to me.

Keep movin':)

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MagnanimousDonkey 5 points ago

Great advice. While I'm not suffering from depression, I took the time to clean up the garage. Broke down a ton of boxes, finally installed hangers to place the bikes on, swept it out, and organized loose clutter into boxes.

Feels good to do small things like that.

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PresidentDonaldTrump 25 points ago

Seriously stop drinking. We are on a stress OVERDRIVE right now like most of us have NEVER experienced before. Not only do we not know how to cope with the stress, we don't know how to REVERSE it. This is causing many of us to get depressed and get close to a MENTAL BREAKDOWN.

You need to slow down. Turn off your phone. Stop watching the news. Stop thinking about the future. Please stop drinking. EAT AS HEALTHY AS YOU CAN. I mean it. Eat salads and get clean proteins. Cook it yourself if you can. Call your loved ones and ask for help. Take a xanax.

I experienced this myself, giving myself actual extreme SICKNESS symptoms including vomiting. 100% stress induced! I know because once I fucking took care of myself I was able to chill the fuck out and am now feeling amazing.

There is a ton of good news. Drugs that appear to work with more in development. All kinds of new tests including ones you can self-administer. People are adhering to social distancing, which will slow and ultimately stop the spread. We'll have a vaccine for next year. We're getting checks in the mail. You dont have to pay taxes until july. Put yourself first! I normally can't stand the people who are all about "self care" but in this time of a genuine crisis, it is 100% vital.

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SomeGuyOnTheInternet 12 points ago

Not OP, but this helps put some things in my life in perspective, thank you.

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themightykekfish 3 points ago

I stopped making excuses 2 weeks ago and started trail running 3 miles up to the top of a mountain near my house.

First day was SOOOO bad I had been drinking too much worrying about everything. HORRIBLE shape after the winter.

I promised myself I wouldnt care about the weather or ice just do it. By the third day I was more excited to go out and run than drink.

I still had some when I came home but I had already burned off my anxiety instead of trying to drink it away.

EXERSIZE PEDES no matter what

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Woohan 21 points ago

We are social creatures. Being isolated can take its toll. Self care is important when you're feeling this way. Do you have any interests you can use to occupy your mind - creative activities, journaling, exercise? Those things can really help. And it's good you are reaching out. You are among friends here.

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PurplePunch36 [S] 17 points ago

I used to exercise a lot and I cycle a lot when it’s warm out but kind of in between seasons now. So it’s hard. I’ve just been off rhythm a bit. Trying to find ways to keep myself occupied.

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QuantumRemedy 7 points ago

Try some art. You dont have to be creative or even good, just try something new like drawing or painting or putting something together to try something new and expand yourself a little. Don't think about what you should do or can't do, but what you can try. Think of this as time to explore things you didn't have time for or didn't make time for before.

Also exercise and maybe find a way to be social online. Nothing dangerous and nothing soul sucking like Facebook or Instagram (there are links to these and depression) but maybe calling a friend or loved one and just talking (even if that's not your style, it's certainly not mine) or online gaming where you can enjoy interactions with others. I work from home and I don't get depressed very much but that's because I dont crave social interaction and I make sure to exercise every once in awhile. However, my wife is about to lose her damn mind because she has to have a lot of social interaction or it affects her mood.

There have been studies that show that the spectrum of introvert vs. introvert may not be based on preference but chemical needs that are either met or overly exhausted by contact with other humans. If you need contact with other humans, find ways to make that happen in a safe way. You may still be lacking and a little down, but making the effort can mitigate a lot of your negative feelings.

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Kolob 3 points ago

I believe that, I am a friendly and social person, but after a certain amount of contact I am just done and need lots of time alone. People who have not lived with me all think I am an extrovert. No one who has lived with me thinks that. Even so I am not at an extreme ad have deep social needs

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Kolob 5 points ago

You came here for a boost because deep inside you know you are ready to move out of your deep slump. I have subscribed to a yoga video service, OmStars and the Yin sessions have been helping me sleep. They also have crazy hard stuff like Ashtanga if you want something intense and using high strength. There are a bazzilion workout videos on YouTube. Best of luck, please keep us updated

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Brookes 3 points ago

If you like dogs your local shelter may be looking for foster homes during this time. Maybe focusing on another living thing that desperately needs help would be good for you.

Walking a dog is good for you and the dog. I’ve been depressed locked up at home, I’m immunodeficiency elder pede so my dogs are keeping me sane. Sunshine and mild exercise for me and happy dogs getting out to pee on everything in the neighborhood. I can’t even go grocery shopping my hubby has to go for us. Then come home and sanitize everything including himself.

We are in California and our county is seeing a big upswing in cases.

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Texas-Centipede 18 points ago

Stay flexible and go with the flow. TD shutdown didn't do anythig to this community! We are all still here shitposting and supporting one another. Hang in there. And yeah, cut down on the drinking. Saves you money! Start exercising too. Makes you feel better and releases testosterone. You won't regret it. Never forget, you have friends here. Don't despair! We are strong and so are you.

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DCdeplorable 16 points ago

This comment reminds me of how we all were in quarantine before it was cool 😎

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AutumnCrystal7777777 5 points ago

That cracked me up, it's true isn't it. We can do this time standing on our head.

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Kolob 3 points ago

I think it was an XKCD where the cartoon guy said he had been practicing his whole life for this. LOL

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PurplePunch36 [S] 13 points ago

Thank you so much for that. I appreciate it. I’ve been very active up until a month ago and have barely worked out since. I think that’s a big part of it. I don’t have the opportunity to get into my routine with the regulations that have been put in place and I’m struggling to find ways to stay active. I might go running tomorrow in some cold weather gear to just get my mind off things.

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Texas-Centipede 12 points ago

Work out in your garage or out in your driveway. That's what I do. Get some music going and do some workouts. Makes a difference.

And stay connected to people through phone calls. When you can't see people, hearing someone's voice makes a difference. If you are thinking of a friend, call them.

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MagnanimousDonkey 1 point ago

Texas does it right! I've been doing some Tabata HIIT in my garage lately, even though it's been chilly and rainy here in Austin. Earbuds with music and exercise.. good medicine.

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Kolob 4 points ago

Try these from my Pilates studio. https://www.youtube.com/user/propulsionpilates My husband does Pilates to work his core for taking his motorcycle on the track. I have been a slacker and in times of stress do far more gentle workouts than this, but when things even out I will go hard core again.

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M1ASOCOM 17 points ago

My dad is 90 years old, so he was a kid during the depression. I asked him how he got through it. He said they pretended it wasn't happening. My grandfather was a longshoreman who didn't have steady work until World War 2, and then he worked double shifts. My grandmother was a nurse who worked nights at a mental institution. But he had his brothers and his sisters and got by.

Life is sucking for millions of us right now, together.

If it is sucking for a real reason, we will pull through this and be stronger because of it. Have faith at least that we made the right choice in 2016 and President Trump is the one calling the shots right now... he won't let us down. I honestly feel that God guided the American people to choose him for this moment.

If it is sucking as a result of an overreaction by the media and blue-state politicians, and it turns out to be less bad than we thought, then there will be hell to pay. And we will need to have the strength to bring that hell - no one else will fight our fights for us by that point. We'll have to do it ourselves.

The Great Depression of the 1930's gave way to the War Years, and the War Years gave way to the post-war Economic Boom. It always follows this pattern.

Good times make weak men -> weak men make hard times -> hard times make strong men -> strong men make good times.

Welcome to the hard times. Let it be the crucible that reforges our country.

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Kolob 3 points ago

Agree 100%. I am reading The Fourth Turning and this is what the book is about. They predicted some kind of disaster, they just did not know what form it would come in. My kids are millenials and they are very similar to the depression era generation. They are not in their parents' basements because they like it or because they are lazy. It is just too &*&% expensive for them to live with starter jobs. They are tightwads and they will pull through and rebuild our country as they return to solid values. My house might as well have been the depression when I was growing up as things were very rough and the skills I got during that time have helped me my whole life. I am totally cheap and we have many years of savings, plenty of it in cash. Going through this young is going to help this generation to become very strong.
Our country will need to pull together after this and people will need to work in manufacturing to bring our supply chains home. This will need massive effort from our young and sacrifice from all so we can regain our independence

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TrumpsWall 16 points ago

My wife is really extroverted and is having a tough time right now too. She was crying in the kitchen yesterday by herself when I came in unexpectedly. She has a big family who lives far from here and is an overall worry wart. Lots of people are having a tough time right now. I have always been introverted and like to spend time by myself, so this doesn’t bother me too much. I have been doing stuff around the house I haven’t had time for, and am trying to improve my novice bass playing. Do you have something to keep you occupied? I learned to code a little online, and it was really fun and led to other opportunities for me. Maybe take this time to learn a skill. I have been doing cardio every day, which my doctor told me I needed to do because of hypertension. It’s helping me feel calmer but given me more energy, and I lost 5 pounds even though I’m eating a lot in this quarantine.🍿 You can always talk to someone in here too. 👌 And really, I think if you give yourself a little mission or goal or whatever, you’ll feel better and more empowered about your life. Take care bud.

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PurplePunch36 [S] 9 points ago

You sounds like me 99% of the time, your wife sounds like the other 1% of me lately lol it really sucks to feel like this. I’m almost always at a positive mindset.

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Kolob 3 points ago

Awww, send some of our love to your wife. My husband is more introverted than I am and I am already introverted, but I need some outside contact. Yesterday I was feeling low in the morning and a friend texted me. It perked me right up. Even the most minor of social interactions matter. I have daffodils blooming and plan to give some out to cheer people.

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PositiveEnergy 9 points ago

If you feel you need to stop drinking, that is exactly what you need to do. This is an important period of time because people don’t have many ways to distract themselves from themselves. Don’t be afraid to look within. It’s okay to not feel good about your life. That’s your soul speaking to you. Listen to it. Go to YouTube and find some Jordan Peterson videos. Also, whenever the chips are down, I turn to God.

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SomeGuyOnTheInternet 9 points ago (edited)

If it makes you feel any better, right as it was looking like this virus stuff was going to be serious my girlfriend broke with me out of nowhere (mental health issues) and wouldn't even let me say good-bye to her kids who two/three weeks ago I viewed as my future step-kids. Last time we hung out everything was perfect, dancing in the living room, her telling me how great and I am and how much she loved me, etc. I went home to take care of my dog then without warning she broke up with me via text, took days to get "it's not you, it's me" as an explanation, and now absolutely zero contact with her or the kids. Now I am home with no work, no sports, no news for distraction and only my dog for conversation, still trying to make sense of it all (even though I knew about her mental diagnosis, still my brain wants rational explanations). Life was a thousand times better three weeks ago, then I blinked and my entire world and future I was planning was just gone and there is nothing I can do to fix it.

Wow, sorry, didn't mean to vent there, just saying I know how you feel and you aren't alone. My bottle is raised up to you, cheers dude.

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AutumnCrystal7777777 7 points ago

Ouch! Thank Christ you got a dog.

I want to thank you, all of you really. I'm somewhat in the shit but I'm done feeling sorry for myself thanks to y'all.

(You're allowed some sorry for yourself btw, that's rough)

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Kolob 5 points ago

Hard times, but maybe dodged a bullet long term. I feel really bad for those kids. I will never understand people who operate like your ex.

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SomeGuyOnTheInternet 4 points ago (edited)

It's impossible to understand, believe me, I have been trying. Crazy is just crazy, when there is a chemical imbalance in a person's brain everyone around suffers. And yea, I can't stop worrying about the kids either, they are such great and awesome tiny people and I miss them.

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OhLollyLollyPop 5 points ago

This is a terrible time for a breakup. But, the same advice goes. Keep busy, get exercise, walk the dog or go for a long drive with him. Stop watching msm news. Time is what will help.

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rooftoptendie 2 points ago

blessings and prayers your way pede. that is so rough. I'm sorry that happened to you.

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GernBlanston1 9 points ago

I'm very appreciative that this site is up. I was very much beside myself when it was down recently!

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PurplePunch36 [S] 10 points ago

It’s saving me. Saving a lot of us. I’m thankFul to have somewhere that cares about me

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GernBlanston1 1 point ago

I'm not going that far, no one on the internet cares about you or me. I just like the info and ability to speak my mind freely.

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AutumnCrystal7777777 6 points ago

No, there's genuine goodwill here, encouragement. That's care.

Physical acts of charity or aid, no. Plenty of empathy though.

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MindsetRoulette 8 points ago

What's going on? what's stressing you out?

To offer some comparison of my situation. I live in NY with my brother. We are just having a mix of Trump fun and news updates while we wait to see if we are staying in New York or packing up the truck and going back West to live with family. leaving absolutely everything we have.

Still having a fun weekend. it's just stuff we collected while living life. Most of what we think matters, doesn't matter much at all.

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PurplePunch36 [S] 13 points ago

I don’t know exactly. I never get like this and I think the alcohol has something to do with it. I don’t drink every day but lately when I do drink it effects me differently. I think with age alcohol becomes more of an issue. I’m in my early 30’s and it’s starting to become less of a social drug and more of an antisocial one.

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MindsetRoulette 8 points ago

That's about when i started easing up on my drinking too. Age 25 we really figure out what kind of person we are. 35 we start looking back to see if fucked up somewhere ;)

If there's nothing specific hitting you. Quit the drinking (it's a depressant), increase exercise cardio or weights depending on what you need, and get some sun. Another way to get the ball rolling is to start every day getting showered and dressed up. Then slowly reclaim your life one room at a time. Organize it and see how long you can maintain it.

I've had depression all my life even after 5 different medications. So getting the ball rolling is my weakness.

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QuantumRemedy 7 points ago

Getting sun is great advice! Trying out some multi vitamins or specific vitamins can really help too. I have a constant vitamin D deficiency issue, as do many Americans, and when I cant get enough sun, supplementing D makes a difference for me.

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Kolob 1 point ago

We were not designed to spend so much time indoors, nor were we designed to block all sun from our skin. I get seasonal affective disorder without enough UV and have found that getting outside is the best help with tanning beds necessary in the dark of winter. Strangely it has eased off post menopause

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Kyro5411 5 points ago

I caught myself drinking too much a few nights ago. Was having 4-5 drinks a night every night for a week. I had to snap out of it and started focusing on more important things and getting more exercise. Now, I'll let myself have one beer a night, if any at all, and cut myself off. Don't let it control you.

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Kolob 2 points ago

You are spot on. Alcohol is insidious that way.

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TEXinLA 7 points ago

It's fucked right now, due in part to the bat shit media yappers who enjoy reporting about the sick, dying and dead.

Go for a walk or run and get out of the house. Take some black oil sunflower seed with you and make instant friends of some birds and squirrels. You will feel better and so will they.

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OhLollyLollyPop 3 points ago

We all need to stop being viewers of the misleadia. When you want to drink, eat skmething, then go for a walk.

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pelosis_liver 7 points ago

If you feel like the drinking is part of the problem then it probably is. Stopping drinking can help a lot. It doesn’t fix everything but it’s really hard to fix anything when you’re drinking to cope. I’ve been there. I feel for you.

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MakeCaliGr8Again 1 point ago

... when the liver is more sensible than it's person. Thanks!

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Chicken_Tendies 7 points ago

I REALLY thought this was going to turn into chicken tendies copypasta...but keep your head up, look for the positives in life & keep on husslin'. The quarantine does suck, I don't like it and there's too much hysteria and uncertainty...I am in the middle of a few things right now in my life and the virus crap is definitely testing my steele but ya can't be afraid of the bottom, embrace the suck, learn from it, be strengthened by it.

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tangerinemanbad 7 points ago

You'll be ok. Quit the drinking and put that money to a new hobby. If you arnt already get I to HAM radios, easy to buy into and tje license is cheap, good for communication if this virus is legit.

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V_exodus 2 points ago

Ham radio = new addiction, but in an awesome way

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sun_wolf 7 points ago

What the media is doing right now is mass mental abuse. They have gone too far. We are now seeing the REAL WORLD consequences of FAKE NEWS. We are seeing how far the globalist cabal will go to maintain control. They still won’t accept that we voted for someone they didn’t want us to vote for. But what now? Are we supposed to bend the knee and apologize and vote how they tell us to from now on? At this point we are all in it together and we have to use this opportunity to finally defeat these people. So much depends on President Trump right now. Let’s try to follow his lead and remain as calm as possible. It’s easy to get emotional and we are all feeling that. It’s an unprecedented time. But also remember: this is almost undoubtedly a coordinated attack of some kind, and a major part of it is psychological warfare. There is so much hysterical click bait and fear porn out there right now. Remain skeptical. It’s easy to get carried away and start generating hysteria yourself. It is even somewhat addictive. Try to notice that when it starts to happen, and it will, because they are bombarding us with this bullshit from every direction. Soros and Obama just launched a big 4K Ultra HD Netflix series called PANDEMIC in big alarming text. A lot of people will get sucked into that and spread even more hysteria. That is by design. But any series like that started production at least a year ago, so what does that tell you? Does anyone believe that was just coincidentally ready to go? So let’s be on guard against what this attack is: a virus, maybe, but more than that, it’s a media weapon.

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Kryzine2 7 points ago

Be like GEOTUS and stop drinking Pede! You will not regret it!

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PurplePunch36 [S] 11 points ago

Thank you so much for your response. It’s just a tough time and tonight especially with the drinking has caught up to me. I’ve told myself so many times to stop drinking but it’s hard in a social sense.

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bouki 6 points ago

Your perception is your reality. Be very careful with your self talk. Your subconscious mind will grow whatever you plant there.

Plant good things!

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rooftoptendie 1 point ago

trying to get people at this level where they understand what self talk does, and how to practice appropriate self-talk, is NOT easy.

There are some people in my life who grasp the concept and I try and help them break the bad habits. My aunt - in - law will say "Ooh, don't let me forget to _____." And I'll say, "You mean help you to remember _____?"

She is catching on after years of this gentle friendly reminding. She can do it on her own now. So proud!

FUN FACT: Even GEOTUS does this. If you have done a less than exemplary job on a task, if GEOTUS doesnt like you he will say you have done badly, terribly, etc. If he likes you, and you have not performed a task to expectations, he will say you 'have not done well' or it was 'not good' or 'could have been better'.

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DCdeplorable 6 points ago

Hey idk from your posts here exactly what the situation is, but remember that your outlook is the biggest determinant of your outcome. Find a way to remember the good - shitposts help me a lot, though i should be meditating too as thats super helpful if you use it the right way.

If you think drinking is the problem, maybe it is - but also don't let that be an excuse to beat yourself up. You're allowed to feel a bit off right now, literally the entire world is right there with you. It'll pass, just make sure you keep your shit together so you come out good on the other side.

And sometimes you can't control outcomes - maybe your job get fucked up, you'll find something better with a good can-do attitude. Maybe the personal stuff is more the issue, you're the only person you need to rely on, and once you're proud of yourself others will respond to that positively.

If you got time to kill online, look up CBT, basically its all about unraveling the cause and effects that hold you back, and finding new ways to think about yourself and your situation.

Exercise is good, not drinking is good, eating fruits and veggies is good, but your overall self is a combination of that and many other things so you gotta find out what helps you most. Hoping you find it, and once this kung flu passes we're all gonna be so busy catching up, i want you to thrive. Just remember we're all here to maga.

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incogneato 8 points ago

Just remember we're all here to maga.

Someone on the old site once said that "Make America Great Again" included making yourself great again. Your country needs you and you must be ready.

Get yourself as fit as you can, get help to stop drinking (you won't be the first who needed that) and be ready for a great life and a great future - both for your country and yourself.

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superalienhyphy 6 points ago

I am a recovering alcoholic, sober for 10 months. Get a role model or confide in someone that you want to stop drinking. Tell them you need their help abd whenever you want to drink, call them. Go to an AA meeting if religion is ok with you. You can do it!

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rooftoptendie 3 points ago

WAY TO GO ON 10 MONTHS!!!!!!

I am impressed, that is not easy. You are doing GREAT! So proud!!!!

That was right around the time for me when I finally was able to walk right past the beer case without stopping and staring like an idiot motionless for 5 min as I fight silently with myself in my mind.

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Ishtar-Astaroth 6 points ago

you'll be ok, pede. the world will keep turning and we'll bend each new day and challenge to our will as the greatest country on the face of the earth. it's how this country has been from the very first day. every moment of peace and prosperity is bought at the cost of moments like this. you just have to decide to weather the storm.

as for reddit, rejoice because we're finally free of Spez's top-notch cuckmongering. this is where we should have always been.

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whocaresguy420 6 points ago

going through it too, you arent alone. my brother in laws sister just passed away to day too. rough one. we will overcome.

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PurplePunch36 [S] 9 points ago

I’m very sorry to hear that. And that s100% worse than what I’m going through. I hope the best for your family and I know if you need anything we are all here for you.

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AutumnCrystal7777777 2 points ago

Sorry for your loss.

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tdwinner2020 6 points ago

This past week I've felt anxiety that at times was crippling even. Yesterday i started feeling much better. I think it's because i learned enough about covid-19, chloroquine, kaletra, and so on, that i concluded that this whole thing will pass soon. Also, seeing Trump's numbers go up made me realize that this whole thing isn't working out for the dems and media - Trump is steady and solid and does the right thing, so he can't be defeated by setting traps for him or ginning up hoaxes, outrage and fear. This crisis means he does a press conference every day AND the media has to show it!! And he's great at this, so he wins. That might even mean that the media will help end the panic just to get GEPTUS off the air!

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spanglevision 5 points ago

Alcoholic here. I've been sober for years (one day at a time). Only you know if alcohol has become a problem or not. PM me if I can help in that respect.

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DArtist51 5 points ago

Just glad you shared here. Know you are not alone. You have a family here. Lots of great suggestions in the comments. Chin up, get some exercise, and cut back on your drinking - it won’t solve anything; it just makes you numb.

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ChilledCovfefe 5 points ago

We are all here now! Reddit is commie and also dead

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whoscout 5 points ago

Yo, Purple! You're good. The glass is half full too remember? Your post is how I feel sometimes too. I drank too much too. Wound up in the hospital for a week, couldn't drink, and haven't since. For one thing, doctors don't take you too seriously if you do :) And when you're down, take it one minute at a time, relax, do something fun, do something productive, take a nap. Good luck, 10 million winners here support you!

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DisrespectfulNipples 5 points ago

You need to stop drinking immediately. GET HELP NOW I'M NOT JOKING. You are an alcoholic.

This Corona shit may trigger the Nationalist uprising in less than a year. You need to pull yourself together and get ready. We are going to fucking war.

Stop. Drinking. Now. If you're going to die you will die fighting for the West. Make the Founders proud. We will spend eternity with the Gods when the dust settles.

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AutumnCrystal7777777 4 points ago

considers sharing foxhole with DisrespectfulNipples

I'm in. Let's fuck 'em up.

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rooftoptendie 2 points ago

I hear this foxhole is for the badass sober bitches.

(drops gear and offers around thermos of covfefe)

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BattleToad8999 5 points ago

Go teetotal like POTUS friend! I have seen alcohol absolutely destroy the lives of very many close friends over my many years. Alcohol ain't where it's at. I used to laugh in my late teens and early 20s at how alcohol was some kind of competition for attention seekers. It's a social and internal crutch and you/we don't need it!!! My opinion. Hope it helps you!!

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goodbeerbetterviews2 5 points ago

Hey bud,

If you ever want to talk we are here for you. I know it doesn't sound like a lot but feel free to reach out to me (some random internet stranger) about whats going on. I am a good listener and have been going through one of the shittier past few months myself. Anyways, goodluck and I hope to hear back from you and if not I hope you find your way.

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Smurfection 5 points ago

Its hard and its the uncertainty for most of us, that's the hardest. Just remember, "this too shall pass" and don't give up hope! It's always darkest before The Don.

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hatchet4golf 5 points ago

"Those who sow in tears shall reap with joyful shouting" Psalm 126:5

Keep planting the good stuff in your life and the lives of those around you, and trust in God, especially when it is hard.

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FlippingSwitchesUSA 4 points ago (edited)

Jordan Peterson: incremental improvements. Make something chaotic into order. Do the things you've been putting off. Is your room clean? Build yourself up with little things. Do one thing better a day. You don't need to clean your whole room, just do one chore in your room that you can do. Negotiate with yourself and your anxieties- the things you know you should deal with but aren't. Don't compare yourself with someone else, compare yourself to who you were yesterday.

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Dog_star_man 4 points ago

It’s hard, for sure. Each day is an opportunity to make things better for yourself. Keep you chin up

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NoStumpoElTrumpo 4 points ago

Baby steps! Start with one small "right thing" to do. Do it until it feels good and natural. Then do the next right thing. These are the steps people follow to emerge from depression due to loss, but it works wonders. I myself have emerged from depression this way. Took about 3 months. Little by little....one more small, right thing. You can do it!

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OrganicPINEAPPLES 4 points ago

Vitamin D and minerals, take them. Get out in the sun, lack of Vitamin D leads to sickness, anxiety, & depression and and change your life perspective.

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NimbleNavigator -1 points ago

Like the unstoppable comeback you sent me? https://i.imgur.com/1BviwdE.png

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AlteredBeast 4 points ago

I’m more of an ‘herb’ guy as alcohol leaves me sluggish and moody. I recommend other ways to unwind, try to avoid too much alcohol as it’s a known depressant.

I have anxiety among other things in these times as Im dealing with custody and support battle with an elite trash bag. Try to keep things in perspective and find some good clean hobbies. Most of all, don’t let truly miserable people ruin your day.

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MI-MAGAgirl 3 points ago

I find kava is a good replacement for alcohol. Reading through all these responses though I’m in awe at the great advice and positivity! What a great community we have here. Fuck Reddit

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rooftoptendie 1 point ago

when you have anxiety you have to take it easy on the Kava, because too much is bad for your liver. and if you have nasty anxiety, you can end up needing to drink it 5 times a day or more.

But if you use it wisely, it can take the edge off in a pinch.

I had the best results with Lavender Extract. 160mgs works like a charm. Only drawback is it takes over 15 min to kick in, so you have to catch your attack early if you want to beat it with the lavender.

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AlteredBeast 0 points ago

Yes indeed. Reddit the Donald used to be a great anomaly.

Most of social media incl reddit is Confirmation Bias. Proud pedes showing off their defense systems, family and hard work is much greater than some pithy social credit score.

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1q2s3e4f5t6h7u8k9o0 4 points ago

Hey man, I think a lot more people than you think are going through similar stuff. The beauty of the struggle is we all have the power to turn the tides, when we ultimately decide to.

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Flagwaverforever 3 points ago

Pick a positive person each day and call them. It helps me. We talk about anything other that the China flu.

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Joejoesing 3 points ago

No self pity. We all need to fight to make it through this. Don't fade yet.

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cyberpunkstreetart 3 points ago

Right beside you in the fight brother

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johnrambo 3 points ago

Turn to the boss. Crappy article but the point is still there.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/brainstorm/200905/donald-trump-failure

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Headline_Correction 3 points ago

I have this problem too. For me, I found that the key to happiness is doing things that make other people happy. I suggest try once; stop thinking, climb out your head, and do something for somebody else. That works for me, but yes I slip backwards sometimes. You can feel better, you must really want to. I know that sounds stupid. edit: I had to quit drinking a few years ago, only rare holidays now

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Kolob 3 points ago

Dump the alcohol and if you must check out chemically switch to weed. It does far less long term damage. You can and will get through this. If you want to feel needed in a lower skilled job there are plenty of places in the food supply chain and they all hire. In addition some allow you to be outside in the sun. It is ok to sometimes just feel bad and depressed, but do not self destruct pede, it does not pay off long term

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rooftoptendie 2 points ago

even just CBD's - which can't get you stoned - are great for taking the edge off when youre trying to quit.

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66_Chevelle_SS 3 points ago

Whenever you are trying to kick a habit ( drinking, smoking, biting nails, etc.) it can be hard. Sometimes it seems impossible. One technique I have used to help discipline myself is the one minute rule.

Whenever you feel the need to go pour that drink, and you feel yourself about to do it, wait for one minute. That's it. just stop and wait for one minute then go ahead and drink up (or smoke or whatever).

OK now you have mastered waiting for one minute, try five minutes, then 15. Eventually your discipline builds up to the point where the original urge will pass. When you are at that level then it's a good time to try quitting for good.

You will still get urges, but now you have built up your discipline to the level where you can wait until they pass. I have been sober for three years and boy do I not miss drinking at all.

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Lord_Kek 3 points ago

Much love to you

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FreeMind 3 points ago

It sounds like you’re headed in the right direction. If you see your bad habits, you can address them and move forward. I stopped drinking for similar reasons. I had been drinking to deal with stress and push down guilt. I’m not telling you to stop or anyone else, but you’ll know what’s right for you. Something that worked for me, I waited a few months before I told anyone I stopped. I didn’t want the pressure of saying “I quit” and just drink again in a few days. I just told myself I’d see how I felt and then when things got better for me, I started to tell my friends and family. I’m happy you have a place like this. I was a huge lurker on T_D and was in fear I’d be somehow doxxed and lose my job. I’m grateful for these smart people to have the foresight to create this site.

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RBailey82nd 2 points ago

Ive been there too, Keep your head up buddy. Slow down on the drinking and stay positive. Do something you enjoy doing or try to help someone in need.

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Filetsmignon 2 points ago

Pede. Quit drinking. I drank for 30+ years and then quit cold turkey. The first 15 days were hard, after that it got easier. After 30 days I stopped thinking about it and felt so much better in every way. Put the bottle down and you will see a major improvement. You can do it. I downloaded an App called Quitzilla and tracked my progress. Maybe it'll help.

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SomethingNondescript 2 points ago

The drinking is like 90% of it. I don't know your exact situation, but sounds similar to where I was. Quit drinking and start going for walks. You have to change the way your brain processes your current situation. Remember to love yourself, GEOTUS does. Get well Brother!

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FUCHINA 2 points ago

Your not alone my friend!

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themightykekfish 2 points ago

If you can't stop drinking ATLEAST lay off the hard liquor when you are out of control.

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DiggRefugeeAllstars 2 points ago

Stop drinking now. You have a problem.

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SimplePede 2 points ago

Give up the alcohol, start puffing the ganja your mind will thank you

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CincoAlPastor 2 points ago

Stop drinking and try working out. Get a hobby and start learning something useful. Good luck pede

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rooftoptendie 2 points ago

I've helped a few people quit drinking. As long as it's not bad enough that you get DTs when you quit, then I would humbly offer my suggestions for how I helped my friends quit:

  1. Youre in a negative feedback loop where the alcohol is depriving your body of nutrients, especially B vitamins... and yet the alcohol (I'm assuming its beer) has B vitamins in it, so your body is signalling you to crave it for the nutrients. Yet drinking it will deplet you of even more nutrients than it replenished.

It can help you succeed if you start EATING before you quit drinking. Slow your drinking first, as you increase your nutrient-dense food. Especially red meat and liver, eggs, cheese, dairy, fish, and fresh foods with vitamin C. If you are used to drinking a lot of beer, you need to slowly teach your body to crave food when it needs nutrients, and not beer.

A good way to do this is to always eat a decent meal before you drink. You will find that you drink a bit less when you do this. Once your appetite starts coming back, then you start to taper off.

  1. While you are getting quitted, your body will be craving instant calories like it used to get from the alcohol. For at least 2 weeks, have sugary items on hand like ice cream, pie, cake, candy. And eat them when you feel a craving, don't be stingy. Eventually once your body is used to being sober, the cugar cravings will start to abate. But if you deprive yourself of alcohol and sugar at the same time, the first month or so of being quitted will be three times harder than it would be if you just snacked on sugary items.

  2. Exercise. You won't be getting plowed anymore, so you will need to get "high" somehow, or you'll climb the walls.

  3. Make a CONSCIOUS EFFORT to do things that don't involve drinking, and hang out with people who don't drink. You are fighting an uphill battle if you try to retain your relationships with friends and family who drink while you yourself are trying to get a handle on it.

  4. Some people can find a way to moderate, and others cannot. But if you are aiming for moderation, then first, be quitted for at least 9-12 months before you try to re-introduce alcohol in smaller amts. You will NOT be able to moderate if you aren't coming at it from being stone cold sober. Second, if you are going to try to attempt to find a "moderate" or "light" drinking balance, you HAVE to KNOW what - in your mind - moderate drinking looks like exactly. Is it three on the weekend? Is it one 6pack per week? You have to know. If you have no concept or vision of what "moderation" means, then you will never get there, and you will never know when you've crossed the line back into alcoholism.

GOOD LUCK. We are all with you. I struggled with quitting for 4 years all in all. I finally made it to the other side with a few failed attempts. I no longer even miss it. And I can have the occasional drink. I might have a drink two or three times a year. It was a hard fought battle to get sober. If you fuck up, just get back up and try again.

And no, I was not able to maintain my friendships with my friends who drink. At least not to the same level we used to be friends. It is unfortunate but my health is most important.

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realJohnGalt 2 points ago

“Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done!" - Rocky.

Being the ripe age of 51, that quote has carried me through many a difficult life moments. God Bless to you and your families.

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Slapstick86 2 points ago

Within the past few months: My roommate stole my security deposit and last months rent, my motorcycle siezed up and died, a $2500 freeze dryer I was about to sell to fix my financial situation was flooded and destroyed, I had my wages levyd right before Christmas due to not paying taxes (hard times) and couldn't afford gifts for my loved ones, like my dad who I already have a strained retionship with, or his new wife (remarried after my mom died), or my sister who hasn't talked to me in years, or even my religious extremist brother who hates me because I'm gay. These financial issues got me into a horrible cycle of overdrafts which costs me $900 in fees over that past few months. I spent the holidays alone, got fired from a good job I've had for 2.5 years by my SJW boss for something I didn't do a week before these quarantines, and am now living in a new place in my humble sailboat with a couple hundred dollars to my name hoping to God that nothing else negative happens. This has been the hardest time in my life. Tbh, death has started to sound kind of nice (I'm not suicidal so STFU).

Do I have any words of wisdom or hope for you? Nope. All I can say is that this is a fucking HARD TIME, and you're not going through it alone. It helps to have a close relationship with God.

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MAGApie 1 point ago

You're on a sailboat? I'd go fishing. Really. Take someone who hasn't sailed.

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UnwaveringDefiance 2 points ago

Quitting drinking was one of the hardest/easiest decisions I ever made in my life. One day, after a personally embarrassing evening out with my wife and friends, I realized I had a problem and didn’t want to keep going on like that.

The first step is to truly want to stop. Once you want to, go cold turkey. I went a year stone cold sober and I’m just now allowing myself a drink in the evenings occasionally.

I doesn’t make the depression go away, but by God if it doesn’t make it easier to cope with.

;IGY6

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PurplePunch36 [S] 1 point ago

Thank you guys for all the kind words. Didn’t really expect this post to blow up like it but it really did help to read all the suggestions everyone listed here. It’s unfortunate that it’s cold outside and all gyms are closed right now but I’m going to go for walk later to clear my mind and get moving and keep busy today. Thank you all so much, I love this community!

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