I was once a young 18 year old. I found out I was pregnant by my boyfriend who later became my husband. I was so scared and didn't have a strong support system at the time. My very liberal sister suddenly became my best friend. She helped get in contact with all the necessary agencies to get an abortion. I went through with the abortion because I listened to all the cons given to me by everyone else. I should have listened to my own heart. It's been 19 years. My due date was 10/31/2000. I got the abortion on 3/8/2000. I left feeling horrible. There was no relief afterwards. I sank into a depression even though it was what I wanted. I'm now 19 years down the road. March 8th is an anniversary for a death to me and 10/31 is always the day I picture what my child would be like now. That child that everyone talked me into getting rid of has never gone away. Never. I have a 15 year old daughter now. I think of how I cheated her from her sibling and my parents from a grandchild. It was wrong if me to do and I'll have those dates in my mind forever. An abortion doesn't solve anything. It creates a permanent gap for all eternity of what could have been. The fact is the services talked abortion before my urine test was dry. They held my hand and guided me straight down a black road. They were super helpful in guiding me down the path of murder. Afterwards, they disappeared forever. There was no support or help other than to rid me of my "problem." I sit here next to my only living child and will always wonder about the one I threw away out of immaturity and fear. Think twice if you think it's a choice. You will live the sentence I brought upon myself of regret forever. It never goes away.
Edit: Posted this identical story to the_donald and it appears to be shadow banned. Doesn't show up in new at all. Please feel free to share this story. Some women are probably feeling how I do. Thank you.
I was once a young 18 year old. I found out I was pregnant by my boyfriend who later became my husband. I was so scared and didn't have a strong support system at the time. My very liberal sister suddenly became my best friend. She helped get in contact with all the necessary agencies to get an abortion. I went through with the abortion because I listened to all the cons given to me by everyone else. I should have listened to my own heart. It's been 19 years. My due date was 10/31/2000. I got the abortion on 3/8/2000. I left feeling horrible. There was no relief afterwards. I sank into a depression even though it was what I wanted. I'm now 19 years down the road. March 8th is an anniversary for a death to me and 10/31 is always the day I picture what my child would be like now. That child that everyone talked me into getting rid of has never gone away. Never. I have a 15 year old daughter now. I think of how I cheated her from her sibling and my parents from a grandchild. It was wrong if me to do and I'll have those dates in my mind forever. An abortion doesn't solve anything. It creates a permanent gap for all eternity of what could have been. The fact is the services talked abortion before my urine test was dry. They held my hand and guided me straight down a black road. They were super helpful in guiding me down the path of murder. Afterwards, they disappeared forever. There was no support or help other than to rid me of my "problem." I sit here next to my only living child and will always wonder about the one I threw away out of immaturity and fear. Think twice if you think it's a choice. You will live the sentence I brought upon myself of regret forever. It never goes away.
Edit: Posted this identical story to the_donald and it appears to be shadow banned. Doesn't show up in new at all. Please feel free to share this story. Some women are probably feeling how I do. Thank you.
Wow, this took a lot of courage to post, I'm sure. My heart is broken for you. You're sharing a very important message here. Wish I had words of comfort for you but I do understand your loss, made all the worse that you were tricked into it by people who abused your trust.
I'm so sorry.
It's okay. It's important to share what the reality an abortion does to a woman. I appreciate the kind words but ultimately take full responsibility for the terrible decision I agreed to. It's easy to get an abortion. It's a lifelong sentence to go through with it.
I understand. Because abortion is legal and available, we're led to believe it's no big deal. We're probably a similar age, I've got several stories from back in the day through high school and college friends and family, and they're never happy stories. But at the time, as you said, it was just the easy, and encouraged, choice. It's even worse now in many ways as the timing keeps creeping up to where late term abortion is just as easily available in some parts of the country. I know now that there are more guidelines for informed consent in some states (not enough) including providing the woman with an ultrasound before the procedure, which I think would be an incredibly effective deterrent, especially after the 8 week mark.
It's important to grieve. I am sorry.
Guarantee that many of the potential fathers feel similar.